I couldn’t get into any of the daily prompts via WordPress or NaBloPoMo for today so I went back in time to the prompt for November 1 – what is your favorite quote and why? If I am going to give it my best shot at a post a day then I want it to be something I can sink my teeth into. Let me preface today’s post by saying the woman behind this blog is the product of genetics (mommy and daddy), when she was born (I am a Leo), and all of the things that she has seen and gone through in her lifetime. In a nutshell, I am my parents child who has a fiery temper at times, is rather sensitive, can stay angry at someone for entirely too long, forgives (at least works at it anyway) but doesn’t readily forget. But I really am a nice person to know and the perfect buddy to take shoe shopping or to a comic-con 🙂
So what is my point here? Where are the quotes already? Here they are:
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss
You might at first glance think these two quotes aren’t related but indeed they are. We often get angry at others because of what others do to us or say and think about us. It is a dangerous slippery hole many of us fall into. The thing is: do we remain in that hole to fester, getting out only to fall back into it again at some provocation, or do we learn from that hole and work diligently to stay the heck out of it? From personal experience I can tell you that hole is a dark, dank, and lonely place to be in and guess what? When you are in that hole you are in it alone! The person or situation that “got” you in there (ie. you allowed it to do a number to you that could’ve should’ve been avoided) is off someplace not even giving you and what was said or done a second thought.
It is a natural human trait to get angry and hurt when others do not treat us well or as we feel they should and it takes effort to not let that anger and resentment take away precious time that may have been spent doing happier things. Every moment you are &^%$ off is a moment of peace that you will never get back (another quote but not one of my top faves). I still get angry about people and things and when I do I try – after I simmer down from the nuclear explosion that oft times is my temper – to inhale and exhale and go forward with my life and either stay away from that hole or quickly get out of it – and sometimes that person/s and situation. If I didn’t like what happened the first time why am I going to ask to have a repeat performance?
That is especially why I love the Dr. Seuss quote. I have to be me and you have to be you otherwise we are going to confuse the heck out of ourselves and other people. Be who you are and say what you feel (providing it is not illegal or cruel is the caveat I might add) because in the end if people love you and are there for you they either won’t mind, they’ll put you straight if you’ve gone off the deep end, or you will be able to hash things out without any irrevocable damage done to the relationship. And if they do mind? Should you really care? Think about it.